Dear Ms Kinky
Dear Ms Kinky:
I have plenty of rape fantasies... Plenty of being held down and used by any
and every available guy... Plenty where a guy is supreme master signaling to
others under his rule what to do with me... As I am forced to suck off a
girl who is protesting with wide eyes... it goes on and on. Most of these
scenarios include extreme degradation and my
submissive friends tell me I'm sick. I told my Dominant-who tired to stage a
scene but it didn't work for me. I want it very rough and degrading. Is
this normal?
Naturally you are asking this about bdsm fantasies because in Real Society
this is not acceptable. Rape and force are frequent fantasies as it relieves
responsibility and guilt.
I'm not a doctor and have little to say about degradation. I'd seriously ask
myself what need this fulfills and how will I feel should I enact this out.
(the rape scenario as your wrote it) Not all fantasies should be played out
and you must consider that this one is yours and not your Dominants. He may h
ave trouble relating to the degree of degradation you want to experience.
Remember some fantasies are far more exciting
than real experience and this may be the case with yours.
You may consider writing your own scenarios, or share rape and
degradation stories from books or the internet with your Dom. There is a
yahoo groups e-mail group called fear-stories that is devoted to the types of
"forced" fantasies you have. Maybe if you read and discuss these stories
together, your Dom will get a better idea of what would work best for you.
Perhaps your Dom would be open to speaking with other doms who have
experience with degradation and rape scenes. Or if your Dom is open to
including others in your scenes, he may be willing to get some assistance
from someone who's done this type scene.
Rape/kidnapping/"take down" scenes involve careful planning and creativity.
If you are patient and can clearly communicate your fantasies to your Dom,
hopefully he will be able to surprise you in the future.
With a blindfold, the right script and props, your dom could stage a rape
fantasy without involving any others. There is a book written by John Warren
called "Safe, Sane Consensual and Fun". It contains 15 fictional stories and
explains how to recreate them in reality. The book can be found at
amazon.com or John Warren's website:
http://www.diversified--services.com
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