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24/7 Stick to Mastrubation
By Master Ed
Stick to masturbation. Sometimes, the worst thing a dominant in this
scene can do is to fulfill a submissive person's fantasies. Why can that be
bad?
It can make their lives too intense and bothered, when they need
normalcy and calm in order to function in the regular world.
They can become self -deluded and think that they are doing things
to please the dom, when all they're really doing is giving themselves the
feeling of submission or masochism or humiliation they want to feel.
They can become spoiled by having the achievement of their most
intense desires given to them through the dom's ingenuity, energy and drive
to create fantastic scenes.
They may become so self-centered and accustomed to their own
pleasure that they forget that their original promise may have been to serve
and suffer primarily for the dom's pleasure.
If your fulfillment of their fantasies moves them to further
fantasy that escalates in intensity and perversity, and you again give these
gifts of realization to them, they can become frightened and resentful about
being shown sides of themselves which they'd rather not confront. This can
make them edgy and bad company.
They may begin to feel, and it may be true, cut off from the vanilla
world of lukewarm sex and lackadaisical relationships with partners whose
regular pleasure is more in the area of cable TV.
They may focus on you completely and then blame you for their own
neglect of the people and other things that sustained them in their lives
before you came along.
They may begin to see you as all-powerful and thus hold you
responsible for every disappointment or negativity in their lives.
They may become addicted and feel that you are withholding from
them when you are just too tapped out or simply weary.
You may do this one thing so perfectly that they want perfection of
you in all things, and make you a god that failed rather than a human being
who succeeded a little.
All of this almost never happens cumulatively, and doms may want to
stay alert for danger signs that the submissive may be taking things a little
too seriously, or that they are encouraging the submissive to do so.
None of this has to happen, if both people go into a D/S relationship
free of the illusions of masturbatory fiction and with continuing awareness
of their separate histories, needs and goals.
Mental health is always important, but never more so than in an
intense D/S relationship. If we're not willing to really care about
ourselves and the people who we put through changes (and I mean both doms and
subs), we should stick to light play or masturbation. Another, deeper level
of safety than we usually discuss!
May their boughs ever soar.
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