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Is female submission just another way for a man to control a woman?

He Said (continued)

In a few extreme cases, the more imaginative Masters loaned out their slaves for sexual relations to males willing to pay tribute to their Masters for the privilege. This form of "role play" or devotion to the master was used instead of the correct term is a pimp and a paid prostitute. However in the heat of controversy many Masters seemed to defend the other Masters right to do just what was done. They even thought it was the slave's obligation to do this for her Master. Now of course I did not notice all these staunch defenders of Masters rights farming out their wives or girl friends for such tribute nor did I see too many female slaves publicly expressing a willingness to put out for other men to increase the wealth of their master.

Another observation attributed to "Masters" from this school of thought is that all fetish scene - role - play is supposed to end or include an intimate sexual relationship with the female submissive. This leads many to the logical analogy that Master's are nothing more than males out looking to put another spin on the whole issue of "how do I get laid? Now the interesting part about this is many females seemingly are submitting, looking for suitable males for sexual relationships with more vanilla goals.

Lost in the maze of who is going to get laid, how many times who cums etc. is the true essence of what Fetish Scene Role Play is in fact all about. Worst yet the skill of the Masters and there over all knowledge about playing range from very little to dangerous actions based upon a lack of caring or machismo abandon. The females are excessively bruised bloodied or in many instances scared out of their wits, especially if this play isn't with, a previously known, significant other. The lust for hard dicks and wet pussies really replaces the drama of true scene role - play. The power exchanges that are supposed to take place just really don't seem to make it. Not only that, but many observers whose dicks are not getting involved, or pussies are not being fucked get really turned off by what they see.

The "Old Guard" or "Old Leather" school basically has a relatively ridged hierarchy system going from Domina / Master to submissive onto the ultimate level for a sub of collared slave. There was a time in this school of play, when no Domina / Master could become a recognized dominant without having first been a bottom / sub missive. The purpose of this exercise was two fold. The aspiring to become dominant knew first hand what the submissive was feeling in most of the role - play. This was especially true in the area of corporal scenes. Also by being the bottom the top had an opportunity to see the whole thing from the prospective of the sub missive

This type of training brought to the forefront the belief that the dominant was completely responsible for the well being of the sub in the scene. He or she learned very quickly what it was like to have things possibly get out of hand. Purposely being taken where you didn't want to go and knowing you had to go there. Yes, there are very few safe words in this type of play. A true player would almost rather die than use his or her safe word in this type of play. This is good because now the future top knows what it means to take someone where they have not been.

It was only when this aspiring dominant has passed through most phases of fetish scene role - play and mastered the roles that he or she was allowed to contemplate becoming a Domina or Master. The prestige of the dominant individual was then judged by how well he or she performed in that role. The mastery of toys, the understanding of the bottom, the ability to develop a power exchange during the scene, and yes the number of slaves or subs who in fact wanted to play with that individual. These factors still determine the ranking of Masters and Domina's in he old guard world.

Just as the dominant had to be trained so did the bottom. If he or she wanted to be recognized as a good player or good sub missive learning the role-play was a necessity. Those with whom you played and in some cases knowledgeable observers judged how you performed in a scene. The manner in which you followed instructions, orders, the respect you gave your dominant, were all ways the sub or bottom was judged. If you were successful at being trained you gained prestige in the group. Dominants would then give consideration to taking you on as a full or part time sub missive. The sub missive then would be trained further by the Master or Domina to fit their particular needs for scene play and service.

The sub missives that proved themselves worthy in the eyes of the Master or Domina were then collared as slaves in many cases. This slave relationship means exactly what it sounds like - you are owned, body, possessions, and soul by the Master or Domina. You give up all your rights except those spelled out in a written, signed and witnessed slave contract. Your life is devoted to pleasing your Master or Mistress. There is no scene negotiation, there are no safe words and there is no questioning the will of the Master or Mistress. This is not much of a problem because the true slave has worked long and hard to become the property of his or her adored Mistress or Master.

The Mistress or Master has in turn taken on an enormous responsibility. The care, protection and total well being of that slave are their total responsibility. If the Mistress or Master doesn't take proper care of the slave he or she will be severely ridiculed. In some extreme cases the offender may be totally ostracized from the group. Unsafe player in this group is the kiss of death. They will not be accepted to play at their parties, not have access to desired sub missives and certainly not get the loan of anyone's slaves. The responsibilities of a Mistress or Master in this school of play are enormous. The responsibilities of the sub missives or slaves are equally strenuous.

The Old Guard / Old Leather School is about ritual being incorporated into fetish scene role - play. The only way a sub missive or slave gets what he or she wants is by pleasing their Mistress or Master. This type of play is all about head space, adrenaline highs obtained in heavy corporal or physical scenes or for that matter erotic scenes or fetishes such as spanking, foot fetish, ass worship etc. The power exchanges that are developed through the headspace and the play are what the participants are all about. Direct sexual activity such as intercourse, masturbation during play, and so forth are frowned upon. Most slaves are ordered not to come during a scene. Should a slave violate the orders he or she can expect severe punishment. The very denial of organism is part of the headspace or head-trip. By now many people must be asking why the hell would one want to participate in this form of play.

The answers are mainly non sexual. This is a great venue for masochists who wish to experience adrenaline highs. It is good for those who want to have life role reversals, namely the person who is dominant all through his or her life wishes to be dominated in the scene. Some individuals with a number of different fetishes may wish to have the opportunity to explore them without having a sexual commitment. Many people participate in this type of play because they cannot achieve this type of role play with their significant others. Therefore without direct sexual involvement there is no real violation of the promises or contracts between the couples that don't play together.

The second school of thought provides for many more needs of the participants than the first school. A major issue that comes to light is that without sexual involvement it is much easier for people to navigate through the different type of scenes. Women can play with men to do exactly that role - play. Man can play with women to sharpen their playing skills or just to develop a power exchange without having to fear they are betraying other relationships.

The neo-classical sexually oriented first school of thought took most of their information concerning fetish scene role - play from the Old Guard School. They then conveniently deleted the points that were not convenient to their specific agendas and added points which in fact have no basis or foundation in the old school. The major problem is when you wish to change things you are not really familiar with or knowledgeable about, the end result is usually just short of disaster in many cases. Unfortunately a good deal of scene play today seems to fall into the above category. In defense of he new school it is unfortunate that there aren't many people or places in this area of the country where you will find old guard play. Think about this the next time you go to a club or private party and watch a scene. Figure whether it is new school or old guard.

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