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| 24/7 Stick to Mastrubation |
| By Master Ed |
Stick to masturbation. Sometimes, the worst thing a dominant in this scene can do is to fulfill a submissive person's fantasies. Why can that be bad?
It can make their lives too intense and bothered, when they need normalcy and calm in order to function in the regular world.
They can become self -deluded and think that they are doing things to please the dom, when all they're really doing is giving themselves the feeling of submission or masochism or humiliation they want to feel. They can become spoiled by having the achievement of their most intense desires given to them through the dom's ingenuity, energy and drive to create fantastic scenes.
They may become so self-centered and accustomed to their own pleasure that they forget that their original promise may have been to serve and suffer primarily for the dom's pleasure.
If your fulfillment of their fantasies moves them to further fantasy that escalates in intensity and perversity, and you again give these gifts of realization to them, they can become frightened and resentful about being shown sides of themselves which they'd rather not confront. This can make them edgy and bad company.
They may begin to feel, and it may be true, cut off from the vanilla world of lukewarm sex and lackadaisical relationships with partners whose regular pleasure is more in the area of cable TV.
They may focus on you completely and then blame you for their own neglect of the people and other things that sustained them in their lives before you came along.
They may begin to see you as all-powerful and thus hold you responsible for every disappointment or negativity in their lives.
They may become addicted and feel that you are withholding from them when you are just too tapped out or simply weary.
You may do this one thing so perfectly that they want perfection of you in all things, and make you a god that failed rather than a human being who succeeded a little.
All of this almost never happens cumulatively, and doms may want to stay alert for danger signs that the submissive may be taking things a little too seriously, or that they are encouraging the submissive to do so.
None of this has to happen, if both people go into a D/S relationship free of the illusions of masturbatory fiction and with continuing awareness of their separate histories, needs and goals.
Mental health is always important, but never more so than in an intense D/S relationship. If we're not willing to really care about ourselves and the people who we put through changes (and I mean both doms and subs), we should stick to light play or masturbation. Another, deeper level of safety than we usually discuss!
May their boughs ever soar.
Other items by Master Ed:
Articles: 24/7 The Story of Zero
Articles: 24/7
Articles: BACK TO BASICS: IN YOUR FACE
Stories: THE STRAP
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