Hot Wax Play.
Q. What is necessary to begin?
A. I advise to put a cloth underneath, because wax play can be messy.
Q. Do you know the proper candles to use for the scene?
A. Most popular ones are paraffin and beeswax
Q. What's the difference between beeswax and paraffin?
A. Beeswax should be avoided, for it can leave permanent marks because of
high burning temperature.
Paraffin are the ones mostly used. White over dye are preferred. You can
get them in supermarkets.
Q. What should you do If your body marks/bruises easily with heat?
A. Keep the distance of the candle further away from the body.
Q. What is the best way to prevent burns during the wax scenes?
A. Rub down the body with oil before wax sessions.
Q. What is the proper distance from the body to hold the candle?
A. The higher the distance between body and candle, the less hotter the
Test it on yourself. Start higher, and ask the sub for feedback. If
sub, ask the dom to start higher. The general rule is higher then 6-8
I suggestion start at least 16-20 inches from the body, and ask for
order to work yourself down.
Ice can be introduced to wax play too. It causes erotic sensations to rub
ice on the warm wax.
Q. Can candles leave permanent burn marks if it's to close to the body?
A. Most Definite. Keep them minimum 6-8 inches away from the body.
Q. What happens if you burn someone?
A. Immediately put ice on it. If no ice, put cold wet towels, and change it
few minutes. Put ointment on that part of the body and bandage it.
The most dangerous type of play in my opinion, since no one can control fire.
That is why it's so fascinating to many. Fireplay also makes an inexpensive
way to have hair removal (which also in the wrong hands can become the most
expensive way to have hair removal).
One can use a violet want or candles to light the fire.
Ice can be introduced to fireplay as well. It causes erotic sensations to
switch between fire and ice.
RULES FOR FIREPLAY!
*Don't use more than 70% Isopropyl Alcohol. Anything more will burn
*Put cotton balls in a jar, and fill it with alcohol. Let it soak.
*When using the cotton balls to rub the area, make sure, you squeeze
alcohol into the jar before you rub the area. This way the cotton balls
*Have a fire extinguisher near by, or a bucket of water. Accidents do
*Make sure the bottoms hair and your hair is out of the way.
*Work with a small area. Don't try to impress others by spreading alcohol
*Fire travels upward; so keep your hand on the very top where you rubbed
the alcohol. This is the quckest way to put out the flame. Put the fire
our downwards and not upwards.
*Don't concentrate on one area. Use the back of the legs, back, buttocks.
More experienced players use the front of the body, I don't recommend it.
*After the session is finished, clean the area and rub it down with Aloe
creams to prevent dryness of the skin.
Q. Does it make a difference what type of rope one uses?
A. Yes it does. Cotton is better rope, it's easier to maneuver and it
doesn't cut into
skin as much. Nylon lasts longer.
Q. How do you maintain the rope.
A. Cotton you can actually throw in the washing machine. Nylon you can wipe
Q. How do you make rope more manageable?
A. Cotton, by washing it. Nylon, by playing with it (twisting, stretching,
Q. How to practice rope bondage safely?
A1. *Make sure that circulation is not cut off. Do not put the rope on the
neck area, inner thighs or any other pressure point.
A2. *The rule of thumb is, try to have room for 2 fingers between the rope
when tying up a person. This way body parts won't fall asleep or become
A3. *Don't leave the person in bondage left unattended!
A4. *If a person is gagged during bondage, have visual safe words, such as
stomping feet, or movement of fingers.
A5. *Always have safety scissors nearby in case you need to cut the ropes
A6. *Don't leave ropes on for more than 20 minutes or so.
A7. *Be careful of unnecessary rope burns when removing the ropes.
*The dominant must wash his/her hands.
*Alcohol/peroxide pads are always good to have around.
*Clean your loin area.
*Are there any cuts that you have around the loin area? If yes, make sure
latex gloves are used.
*Is your partner using gloves? If not make sure they do.
*If no gloves are used, does the top have any cuts around his/her hand?
DO NOT let them fist you.
*Make sure lubricants and NOT saliva is used.
*Give the dominant feedback if you feel it's more then you can handle.
*As a top, ask the submissive for feedback if it's to much for her/him.
*DO NOT insert more then the partner can handle otherwise you may rip the
membrane, and the person can hemorrhage, and/or get an infection.
These include Tens Units, Violet Wands, Stock Prods, and Relaxacisors.
Anyone with health conditions such as heart problems, pacemakers, epilepsy,
etc., should not play with electricity.
The general rule, is do not play with electricity above the waist area.
However, a Violet Wand for example, does not produce enough electric charge
to harm anyone, but why take a chance?
Spanking, Paddles, Caning & Floggings.
RULES TO FOLLOW!
*Examine these toys before they are used on you to make sure they are
*If bruises is one of your limits, then warn the dom ahead of time.
*If a single tail to be used, make sure the top is experienced with it!
Ask the top
to demonstrate the single tail before he/she uses it on you.
*If it's your first time playing, ask the top what to expect from the
cane or whip.
*If it's your first time playing, tell the dominant to "warm" you up
before proceeding to the extreme.
*Ask the bottom for feedback such as, "On a scale of 1-10 how strong is
*Don't hit the bottom in "trauma areas" with hands, canes, paddles and
other hard implements. Trauma places include kidneys, hip, heart,
splean, and bone areas.
EDGE PLAY, Health and Emotional issues:
Q. *As a dominant, are you aware of the "Recall or Flashback" syndrome? A.
During play, your partner's past experiences may be triggered. Example of this
could be during a rape scene, the sub may have a "flashback" of that
dramatic moment. This can be mentally harmful. Know thy partner!
Q. *As a dominant, are you aware of the "letdown" prevention syndrome?
A. After the physical and/or mental session is finished, it is very
reassure your partner that the submission that took place is "OK." This
can be done by holding the submissive and caress, cradle and kiss
him/her, and whisper softly, "good girl" (or boy, whichever applies). It
bounds the submissive closer to the dominant. It also does wonders for
the "psyche" of the submissive.
Q. *Are you familiar with first aid?
A. If not, you better learn CPR if you will session via Edge Play. It's good
to know it anyway. There are dozens of reasons why dangerous sessions are
called Edge Play. Example; during orgasms, by cutting off the oxygen
supply, many have experienced incredible highs from this lack of
Even though Edge Play, such as asphyxia, can bring out a very high sexual
high, I "DO NOT" recommend it, as it can be extremely dangerous.
Results can be a collapsed lung, a seizure, or worse.
Q. What "NOT" to do during asphixia or choking.
A. DO NOT put pressure on the trachea, for it can be very easily crushed.
Make sure the following have a "No" answer.
*Do you have any emotional reasons not to do a certain scene, and not
telling the dominant in order not to disappoint him/her?
*If you're playing with another submissive as well, is the dominant using
the same vibrator and dildo on both of you?
*Are you experiencing something new on a submissive, via Edge Play, and
telling the submissive?
Make sure the following have a "YES" answer.
*As a dominant, are you familiar with the submissives health or emotional
*As a Dominant, if you have health issues, do you volunteer that
*Is the dominant wearing a condom?
*Are clean vibrators and dildos used on you?
*Does the dominant use condoms on dildos and vibrators?
*If you'll play with needles, is each needle sealed in a package?
*If cutting is involved, is the knife sterile?
*Did you make sure the part of the body that is being cut is very clean?
*Did you make sure the right ointment and bandages are around to cover
after the session?
BRANDING/CUTTING AND PIERCING
These activities must be done under the most sterile conditions. Since you
are breaking skin, infections can be gotten very easily. Also the top should
be wearing disposable sterile gloves. After the session, ointments such as
bicitracin should be put on the wound, and area should be covered with a
bandage wrap. Make sure, needles and cutting instruments are always sterile.
Q. What to do if the cut is to deep and the person is bleeding badly?
A. Put pressure on the wound and hold it for a few minutes. If the wound is
really deep, perhaps an artery has been cut. You MUST take the person to
the hospital immediately!!!
This is your life; it is not a rehearsal. You are here but once. I suggest
you savor the safety issues above. It will lead to a safer and more enjoyable
fun for you and your partner. Don't let Ego stand in the way of safety!